Thursday, August 20, 2015

Be Someone's Greatest Gift -- T.T. Rangarajan

 The title of this blog is a letter in 'Unposted Letter' by T.T. Rangarajan. While there are many letters and articles in the book, to me, 'Be Someone's Greatest Gift' had the most influence.

And, I began to ponder about ways we can 'Be Someone's Greatest Gift'. Here are my thoughts:

  1. There is a freedom to express their inner feelings and opinions. The person is not compelled to hide something and is not afraid of our reaction.
  2. We Respect the opinion, preferences, tastes, and even the circle of friends and acquaintances.
  3. Express love, appreciation and praise often enough.
  4. If you do have to give a feedback, give it but without any judgement. 

What are the ways through which you are there for your loved ones ? 

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Responsibility : Response Ability

The book, '7 Habits of Highly Effective people' splits the word, 'Responsibility' as 'Response-Ability'. It further describes the new split, 'Response-Ability' as the Ability to choose your response. And, Stephen Covey, the author, linked it up to the Proactive nature of the individual. Proactive people are responsible for their response to an event, a trigger or a goal. Time is not lost waiting for something to happen but the individual takes the first step to make his plans happen.

When my friend told me about being 'Response-Able', she told about writing goals such as
'I am 100% Response-Able for buying a BMW car for self'. And, follow it up with actions needed to achieve the goal. While deciding on the steps, believe that one can achieve anything and all hindrances will side step away.

A quick google search shows many organizations supporting and talking about being Response Able. There are even steps on how to achieve Response-Ability.

I saw friends achieve miracles when they adopted the proactive nature and chose their response for events. Have you practiced it yet ?

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Deep Thoughts Vs. Shallow Thoughts

The Secret, The Power of Subconscious Mind, The Power of Intention and many such books have described the power of thought and intention in designing our life. In this video, Sri. T.T. Rangarajan has described a very simple method to design our life our way.

He says that the subconscious mind differentiates emotions as deep and shallow. When we feel deeply about something, it manifests more such incidents. What we do not feel much, subconscious mind also does not feel much about them.

So, the trick to have more happy episodes in our life is very simple.

Deviate from unhappy discussions and thoughts.
Connect to your happy incidents more often, and more deeply.

Monday, August 17, 2015

Conundrum of People

The biggest conundrum for me is connecting with people. There are some you feel an instant affinity and no matter what they do, the relation is wonderful. And there are the others, with whom, no matter what, it is very tough to find a liking.

But, what is the reason for it ? Growing up, my mother told me about matching frequencies. Recently, I read in a book that all the acquaintances, friends, relatives, and family belong to one soul family. And, all of the soul family would have spent several lifetimes together. And each time, a soul could be born in a different role to take care, teach and make us help grow. And, some souls that actually love you, could be born in the role of an enemy to teach us the aspects that we may not learn otherwise.

While it is curious to know the history why or why not we get drawn to few people, what I have learned is to just accept and take it from there. As one blogger mentioned, it is not practical to spend energies on aspects that are beyond us.

Friday, August 14, 2015

Giving it back

I never feel more given to
than when you take from me-
when you understand the joy I feel
giving to you.

And you know my giving isn't done
to put you in my debt,
but because I want to live the love
I feel for you.

-- By Ruth Bebermeyer, 'Given To' Album

There was a time when people wanted to help out but could not do either because there was no resources or did not know how to help out or there was a lack of time. But, the last few years have been heartening. There are many individuals, small and large groups taking their role in taking care of the society seriously.

While there are many sincere teams taking time out of their lives to lend their hand, we do keep hearing in the news about fake associations. And, it gets difficult to distinguish between the two.

Here is a list of teams, NGOs, associations that we know personally or through our friends who are really doing their bit. We will update this list as we come to know of more.

Maruti Orphanage - Contact number: 9652666696. Contact Person : Madam Vijaya
Runs an orphanage in KPHB Colony for girls.

Bring a Smile - Contact Person: Archana Suresh -
The team runs drives to collect clothes, toys and distributes them in hospitals, slums or orphanages.

Robin Hood Army - Serve the hungry Citizen: Contact: FaceBook Page.

More to follow.

Thursday, August 13, 2015

Observe ? Evaluate ?

I've never seen a lazy man;
I've seen a man who never ran
while I watched him, and I've seen 
a man who sometimes slept between
lunch and dinner, and who'd stay
at home upon a rainy day,
but he was not a lazy man.
Before you call me crazy,
think, was he a lazy man or
did he just do things we label "lazy"?

This is a poem by Ruth Bebermeyer in the book, "Non Violent Communication", describing the difference between observation and evaluation. Like in the poem above, is someone doing activities that are labelled as lazy or is he/she a lazy man ? More often than not, we judge and evaluate while observing any incident. But, when we combine observation with evaluation, it gets heard as criticism. 

The author, Marshall B. Rosenberg continues to differentiate observation and evaluation with another poem

Tell me that you are disappointed
with the unfinished chores you see,
But calling me "irresponsible"
is no way to motivate me.

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

100 Ways to Simplify your Life

Avoid Excessive Reasoning.
Pray Before you have an emergency.

An acquaintance randomly pinged one evening, checked up on my reading list and suggested to read books by Joyce Meyer. It appeared like she pinged only to tell me about the author. Usually, I am wary of reading books with lists because more often than not, they talk about real simple pointers that I may already know theoretically.

When I flipped the book through, the first way I found is "Avoid Excessive Reasoning". Just few minutes before I started to read the book, I had a hour discussion with a friend about faith, and how it is only a waste of time trying to analyze why a particular person faced a issue. What one needs to do is just accept that the incident happened and get on to resolving it.

And, during this course of conversation, it stuck me that after someone is in a tough situation, it is very difficult for them to accept and start some new practices. Rather, it should be a habit and part of every day schedule to fit in meditation/prayer/mindful contemplation into the daily rhythm just how we schedule breakfasts and lunches.

Joyce Meyer listed 100 interesting ways to really simplify our life. While the book is categorized under Inspiration/Christian Living, she has used every day examples to explain her suggestions.